Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me. – Psalm 23:4a
“Sticks and stone may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” I’m sure when I was hearing that “true-ism” as a child, the adults who taught it to me believed it wise and profound. But the truth was, words could and did hurt – they hurt a lot!
Unflattering nicknames assaulted my self-worth when I was a preadolescent at the country club pool, where we “privileged” kids spent most of the summer. (Funny, I didn’t always feel that privileged…) Those nicknames launched me into a decades-old battle with body image and a 12-year eating disorder.
When we grow into adults, especially as Christians, there is an expectation of a certain amount of maturity. That expectation includes the hope that what malicious people say about us will run off our backs like rain off a duck. Sadly, this isn’t always the case. Even at the tender age of 71, I still have to remind myself almost daily of the humbling of words a former pastor of mine:
“You won’t worry so much about what other people think of you, once you realize how seldom they do.”
I think I was in my thirties when it had come to my attention that I had been the subject of some serious gossip. Although outwardly my reaction was, “Who cares what they think? I know I haven’t done anything wrong.” But inwardly, I was bothered by the talk, maybe because having people think I was guilty of some gross sin would damage my witness, but no doubt also because I just didn’t want people to think I was anything besides the pure, righteous woman I fancied myself to be. Sometime during that season, I had a profound dream that I remember to this day:
I was in a place that was very unfamiliar to me in my waking life. It was a dark, noisy, smoky, crowded bar, and I was trying to leave. There were numerous people packed together between me and the door, and I wondered how I would ever get out of there. This was definitely not an environment I felt comfortable in!
At one point a fight broke out. Some strong-looking, drunken men started throwing punches, and I was sure I would be hit and injured, maybe even knocked out. I must have said a hasty prayer, because I felt the presence of God. When I opened my eyes, I saw a bright spot in that dark place. It was a soft glow, lighting a narrow path from me to the door. I took a step, bracing myself for whatever blows would land on me.
But as I took one cautious step after another on that bright path, I experienced an unexpected peace. Although the fighting around me continued, there seemed to be an invisible shield between the violent men and me. Fists that flew my way stopped abruptly, inches from my face, as though hitting a glass barrier, and I walked on, untouched.
Maybe words can’t hurt us. They certainly can’t harm us, unless we allow them to. Although I was strengthened by the obvious message of that dream, in order to live it out I needed to remind myself continuously to stay on the narrow path (Matthew 7:13), walk in the light (I John 1:7), and have faith in the Lord – that faith being my invisible shield (Ephesians 6:16).
When David set out to kill Goliath, he declined the King’s offer of armor. Shielded only by his faith, unlike others who had fled the giant, he ran confidently toward him. And as we all know, he swiftly won the battle. As a warrior, he no doubt spent much of his life “walking through the valley of the shadow of death.” But even as civilians living thousands of years later, we can look to the God-inspired words he wrote and take comfort and courage from them.
Prayer: Lord, thank You for giving us everything we need to protect us from the world’s attacks. Thank You for Your patience with us, as we repeatedly let ourselves be distracted by the empty threats and accusations of the enemy. Help us keep our eyes on You and our feet on the narrow path, in Jesus’ name. Amen